The Resilience Series
Living in Integrity
What are the gifts of type One that might be useful in building your resilience?
Type Ones do have an internal moral compass that is a guide in their lives, and a guide in making decisions. Living in integrity goes hand-in-hand with that guide.
There is such a new range of the kinds of decisions we’re having to make these days, including the many decisions for what used to be a simple thing like grocery shopping.
And who knew that living in integrity had anything to do with grocery shopping?!
Now we have decisions that include important minutia like when to put gloves on and take them off —
- at the grocery store,
- to put things into your cart,
- to get your credit card,
- when you open or close your car doors,
- when you touch the steering wheel,
- when unpacking the groceries…
…and on it goes.
It takes super-vigilance.
And that’s just for grocery shopping.
There are more and a multitude of new kinds of decisions we’re having to make for our well-being.
Wouldn’t it make all decisions easier if we had an internal moral compass as a guide to simply knowing the “right” thing to do in each situation?
This is hard-wired into many who are type Ones . . . and those who have internalized type One strategies.
This may or may not be you. If it’s not you, there are still some options!
It would certainly be useful (and appreciated!) to recognize and honor those in our lives who have thought these things through and came up with solutions. We can ask their advice.
We can cultivate these strategies in ourselves.
The bigger picture is “living in integrity with our values.” This goes way beyond gloves and grocery shopping, of course.
“Living in integrity with our values” means you know in your mind the values you hold most dear, and the feelings in your heart are in agreement and resonate with the same values.
The next step is taking action that is in alignment with those thoughts and feelings.
What do you do when taking that action is not something you want to do, are not able to do for a variety of reasons, the timing isn’t right — or — you’re not ready for the consequences of these actions (yet)?
When you’re unable to take those actions for whatever reason, criticizing yourself isn’t exactly useful. Know that you are doing your best. Know that you are perfect enough!
This is really difficult for type Ones.
The next time a decision is difficult for you, take a moment and reflect. Check in with your thoughts, your feelings, and the actions that are in alignment with them.
Decisions are much easier when our thoughts, feelings and actions are aligned.
This is living with integrity. And this is a tool for our resilience.